He feels left out and wanted some reassurance that you’re still his #1 person. He might even tell you about his problems while you’re having dinner with the fam so you’ll focus on him. And if it takes you too long to go home, he grumbles. When you’re at a party, it’s strange to be sitting beside the same person the whole night.

He’ll want to know who you met and whether you talked to any new “people” as well (he means whether you talked to any new guys). If he’s upset every time you don’t respond right away or have plans, it’s because he’s possessive and controlling. It’s not always possible for you to respond right away and you have your own schedule. One of my friends is a beautiful and very intelligent girl who got involved with an insecure and possessive guy. This level of jealousy is insane and it’s a trap that nobody deserves to be in.

Let’s face it; guys would rather be doing anything than talking or texting. While some men are naturally more talkative than others, his daily texts may be more than friendly hellos. It gets even more apparent when he also calls regularly. If a guy’s a little more subtle, he might stay in touch, but his texts won’t exactly sparkle.

When you don’t fulfill his needs, he’d drop all of those grand acts of love to punish you….to make you realize what you’ll be missing if you don’t “love” him. Something happened to him that’s traumatic and you feel lucky that zoe problems he shared this information with you. However, he keeps using it as a “card” to get what he wants. For example, he’d say “You know how my ex’s cheating scarred me for life” when he doesn’t want you talking to other men.

As someone who’s been on both ends of the spectrum, I can see why sometimes guys act rude when they like a girl because they are scared of being rejected or just want the girl to notice them. But other times—I’d argue more often than we realize—annoying behavior does serve a higher purpose. These areas of friction may be nothing more than differences rubbing up against each other, but they may also highlight areas of the relationship where improvement could be beneficial.

‘My Boyfriend Bugs the Hell Out of Me!’

But to be honest, it’s been a struggle to get past his voice, but I’m not completely over getting to know him. I hope that either my pet peeves with him will go away or simply won’t matter as much because his personality and big heart (and good looks) will shine through. If you find yourself in this type of relationship often, which many of us do, it’s time for some real soul searching to get to the root of it. If you’re considering asking him out, why not give him what he wants first?

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You’re concerned because the man you’re attracted to, maybe even love, literally has no real friends. Sure, he’s got work buddies and he has drinking buddies. Yes, he’s got acquaintances from high school or college, maybe an old frat buddy (or 10) but there’s something in the appearance of a social support system that seems a bit off.

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It sucks when someone you love rejects you and tells you that they think you are a jerk or a loser. He does not want to feel the pain he felt when he was in a relationship before. He likes that you are interested in him so much that you would put up with this behavior, and he wants to make sure you know how good he is. He wants you to chase them, and so he acts rude to get your attention. He wants to keep you as a friend at a distance because if you get too close he will end up getting hurt.

This usually only works out long term if there was zero chemistry to begin with, and it was a total joke that you ever tried dating. Like you met on Tinder and immediately realized you were meant to be besties. If you were ever truly in like with one another or having good bedroom fun that just doesn’t go away entirely just because one or both of you decided that they didn’t want a relationship. Sometimes it’s totally one sided but more often than not both people are carrying some residual feelings. If you were attracted to someone once why would you not still think that they’re cute when they laugh or get thrown when they lean close to you and smell good? If he wanted you once there’s a part of him that feels complicated about his feelings for you now.

He is probably not only confused about he feels towards you, but if he is
trying to fight his feelings, then he will randomly go cold on you. Some of the most obvious body language signs that he will be
showing if he is interested in you will be that he mirrors your body language. For example, he will stand or sit in the same way that you do. He is subconsciously
showing you that you are a good match. For
example, when you go to take a drink he might do the same, or if you are
touching your hair you might realise he does the same. Even when I ended up in relationships, it was with men who appeared unable to show clear signs of true affection or commitment.

I love the part of dating when you both have text message fever. At first, you try and play it a little cool, but then, before you know it, you’re texting all day (and sometimes all night) long. What isn’t so fun, flirty, or exciting is when you start to get the feeling the person you’re texting isn’t really into it. Dry texting is a major bummer, and unfortunately, it’s one of the definitive signals you can spot from texting that they’re just not that into you. Now, some girls do end up dating their guy friends so keep that in mind. If you do feel some romantic attraction toward your guy friend, you may want to date him in the future.

While it may be infuriating and hurtful, the slow fade could come at any point, but it normally happens in the first couple of months. The good news here is that he’s freed you to find a real man who wants to be with you. And while it’s painful to experience, and it’s not your fault, a slow fade in the early stages is much better than any kind of fade later on. Yes, it sucks, but the slow fade now saves you from bigger heartbreak down the road. For the first week or so of the slow fade, you might not notice anything. Then it gradually dawns on you that he’s not as attentive as he was a couple weeks ago.

It’s obvious that a lot of people’s pet peeves is when people chew food with their mouth open because nobody wants to see what’s inside their mouth. Maybe you chew gum because you’re bored or you just like the flavor of it. But he might find it annoying when you’re popping bubbles endlessly, and the awful smacking sound can drive him crazy.

But I want to spend every irritating minute with you. Even though there aren’t any stars out tonight, you’re still shining like one. Of course, a friend is allowed to say that they’re concerned or worried about you — but they can do it with compassion and understanding. If this is a cross you’re willing to bear, then learn how to deal with a needy man.